Big truth: size doesn't matter the way many think it does.

Growing up, there seemed to be this utter need for men to have an adequate size male sex organ, which means really nothing for a girl. Walking into a football locker room and hearing jokes like "he ain't hung like a horse" or "it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean," didn't faze me, not because size was important, but because sex wasn't a big issue. The truth is, when sex did become part of my life there wasn't any notice of the size versus how good it felt and it turns out, research agrees with this.

The phrase "it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean," basically means that if its small, medium or big, just know how to use it. There seems to be different techniques, but in studies conducted by British researchers at BJU International, almost 63 percent of men said they were afraid of having a smaller than normal penis, but none of them had smaller than normal. According to Valerie Farrington, nurse practitioner at the UTEP Student Health Center, each size has its advantage and disadvantage.

Having a small penis is all about angling. What do I mean by that? Guys with smaller penises have a better chance at hitting the notorious g-spot more then men with huge schlongs. Imagine, you can tap that sensitive island of prominent female pleasure left and right and never get a bad review for having problems with size. In the same British research, "85 percent of women reported they were happy with their partner's size," so either we don't notice the difference or you're doing something right.

Average size men have abilities for both sides. In the proper angle, average sized men can stimulate the clit and the g-spot at the same time; plus, average sizes tend to have slightly more girth, which stimulates the nerve endings at the entrance to the vagina. Basically, a thick penis presses the labia and lower vaginal wall in such a way that brings immense pleasure during sex.

Here is the huge truth: giant penis's, although they may seem to be a dominating vagina destroying beasts, women have a fear that they may get wrecked in the worst possible way. Large penises can pummel the female organ and cause tearing, bruising and bleeding. Girls, imagine making love to an actual cucumber? That makes me cringe.

Many times girls actually look at a man's penis and think it is bigger then they think it is. Consider the infamous angle. You look down and see your little buddy pointing up, or away - I mean everyone is different - your eyes will play tricks on you and create an optical illusion. Its happens to girl when they look down at their own body.

Porn, films, magazines, you name it and they have conditioned you to believe that your penis needs to be massive. Type in penis size and many of the ads that pop up are for penis enlargement. Watch a porno and the strapping young stud is packing some heat as he's banging into his female counterpart. Jokes are thrown in films about the "perfect penis" size. A "Superbad" character had a fixation on the beautiful image of the giant cock.

For now, just know, cuddle up close to your lady on this fine Valentine's Day and if you decide to engage in the term known as sex, don't worry about the size and give her what she wants!

Krystal Oblinger may be reached at prospector@utep.edu.